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Realizing attachments cause suffering and how to re-frame everything in your life.

Updated: Aug 9, 2023

Attachments can lead to pain & suffering. According to Buddhist teachings, suffering arises from our attachment to desires. These desires can vary from material objects, sensual pleasures, and even your relationships. The reason desire causes suffering is because attachments are transient, and loss is inevitable.

So, the practice is to look at your attachment to PEOPLE, PLACES AND THINGS. For instance, my attachments range from to coffee/tea, the place I work, the items in my house, money, friends, and habits!

Then, you take the LAW OF IMPERMANENCE, which says, “nothing last forever.”

Recently, I walked away from a friendship that I knew was not serving me anymore. I had known it for years, but this friend and I had a decade of friendship.

As a former people pleaser, I let people decide what I did. Now, I try to ask myself what is it I really want? I’m checking in more if a PERSON, PLACE OR THING is working for me.

As always, I’m grateful for meditation for helping me let things go. When I think of the Law of Impermanence, I start seeing the patterns of life: people, places, and things will come into our lives and leave as needed. It makes me realize everything will be okay!

Buddha said, “In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you.”

Hugs and Love,

Melissa Mirenda


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